“When are you getting married?”
“You’ve put on some weight, haven’t you?”
“When are you going to have a baby?”
Ughhh! Women are tired of hearing these things.
From what they wear to what they eat, women are always judged for their choices. But why? They are independent and capable of making their own decisions. And frankly, they owe no explanations to anyone!
Women deserve respect and kindness every day, not just on Women’s Day. Let’s make a conscious effort to be more sensitive and considerate towards the women in our lives, celebrating their strength and contributions year-round. And if you’d like to go the extra mile, why not surprise them with thoughtful gifts? We’ve got some incredible Women’s Day Offers to help you make them feel special, not just today, but any day.
Here are 51 Things That Women are Tired of Hearing
1) Beti toh Paraya Dhan Hai
First of all, Beti/Woman is no dhan (money), she is a human, just like anyone else. Secondly, Beti doesn’t belong to anyone. She is her own person. And if the new Mrs. movie has taught us anything, it is to put yourself first. Want some more inspiration? Check out some inspiring quotes on Women’s Day!
2) You run like a girl!
Of course, she will run like a girl, she is a girl! Duh! Have you seen Sha’carri btw? She will quite literally give you a run for your money *hair flips*
3) Can you cook?
Maybe she can, but doesn’t want to because you expect it of her. Stop asking this question! It’s archaic. Gosh! Getting Mrs. movie flashbacks again. And women, next time someone asks this question, remember – bucketful full of sikanji, and bam!
4) Oh, you’re 25 years old? Time to get married!
How about, instead of setting an age limit to when a girl should be married, you let her find the perfect match who will keep her happy for the rest of her life? How about you stop putting your nose where it doesn’t belong?
5) Are you on a diet?
People gotta stop giving their opinions on everything a woman does. Especially their diet and bodies. Oh, you are so thin! You are so fat! You should eat more! You shouldn’t be eating that! Give us a break, please!
6) Don’t cut your hair. Long hair looks good on women!
Well, be it a pixie cut or wolf bangs, every haircut looks awesome on a happy woman. So please do not be bothering her with your muft ka gyan…. Btw, we are Britney stans here so don’t come at us.
7) Do you think you will look good on it?
Uhhh, excuse me, yes! Why do you think I got it? Women can have their own fashion tastes. It’s the way they express themselves, so just shush and go back to looking like a thumb! *eye rolls*
8) Walk like a girl! Sit like a girl!
Different women walk differently. There is no girly/feminine walk. All that is in your head. If she is a girl and she is sitting, then she is sitting like a girl!
9) Diamonds are a girl’s best friend!
Yes, I know Marilyn said, “Diamonds are a girl’s best friend.” But as an Indian girlie, we love our gold. And some women like sapphires or rubies or whatever. Just get rid of that prejudice and you are good.
10) Are you a Feminist?
“Feminist” has become an insult used by misogynists, while it is just women standing up for their rights. Being a feminist does not mean she hates men. She probably hates you, though *eye rolls*. Want to know how women fought for their rights? Check out these women-led revolutionary marches that changed the course of history.
11) Calm down.
If you haven’t learned by now, then let me tell you —- Never in the history of the world nor the universe has anyone calmed down after being asked to “Calm down”. So, why do you think that’s gonna work on a woman?
12) Girls can’t drive.
That is just plain sexism. Calling women on scooty “Papa ki Pari” and “Didi” when they are calmly minding their business driving beside you is just immature. Grow up! Women have long reached space, and here you are sniveling in casual sexism.
13) You still remember that?
Yes, they remember that because it was hurtful. Men mostly use this question in arguments, accusing women of never letting things go. Just try to talk to her about her emotions. You will thank that memory when she remembers small details about you.
14) You’re wearing pink?
Yes, I am Sonia Aunty, because I like it. I was told to hate it as a girl because it’s too girly. So I am going to wear it whenever I want.
15) Are you taking a SELFIE?
Well, are you in the frame? Am I asking you to pose? So, none of your business! Why would my taking a selfie bother you? Unless you don’t have the face for it. Oops! *smirks*
16) Do you have your Husband’s permission?
Marriage is a partnership, not a cage. A woman doesn’t need anyone’s permission to live her life or make her choices. She is her own person, free to come and go as she pleases because respect and equality are what truly define a strong relationship.
17) Oh, you’re used to technology?
Yes, I am tech-savvy, and I know how to slap you through the internet. Just stop assuming women are stupid. After all, it was a woman who wrote the code for NASA’s Apollo program that took us to the moon. Margaret Hamilton, please remember the name.
18) Be home by 8?
How about creating a world where she feels as safe outside as she does at home, so she doesn’t have to rush back by 8? Expecting women to follow a curfew while allowing predators to roam free is outright absurd.
19) So many clothes in your wardrobe and you still want to shop?
If you want your lady to look good, you have to let her wear what she wants. That means she has to shop when she feels like it. And you get no say in it. Just be supportive. You can also help her save more by sharing our clothing coupons with her.
20) Women’s Day! Women’s Day! Where is Men’s Day?
It is on 19th November btw. Just don’t come at us like a petulant child who wants chocolates on someone else’s birthday. It’s so tone-deaf to ask “But when is men’s day?” on Women’s Day.
21) Don’t be so open and bold. Be more nurturing.
Why is it that when a woman takes charge, she is called bossy and when a man does it he is treated as a boss? Women are tagged as problematic to work with when they are open and bold. Women can be everything they want. Just ditch that preconceived notion already, you dinosaur!
22) That’s too much body hair, you have to wax!
Body hair is normal. Everyone has it. If a woman wants to wax she will, if she doesn’t want to she won’t. Nobody is talking about your hairy legs in basketball shorts? So please be quiet!
23) Don’t wear clothes that show so much skin.
As said in the Bible says – “Your eye—even your good eye—causes you to lust, gouge it out, and throw it away!” It’s not her clothes that need policing it’s your thoughts.
24) Swearing is for men. Speak like a lady.
A woman will speak as she wants to. If she wants to cuss tf out she will and if she wants to confabulate with dramatic vocabulary she will. So, just let her be!
25) Your bra strap is showing.
If it is showing, can you just look away, perhaps? If she is uncomfortable with it, she will hide it, if she isn’t, she won’t even give a damn!
26) Do whatever you want after getting married and if your husband allows.
Parents use this excuse to chain their daughters at home, and when she gets married, her husband uses the “family ka sawal hai”, to keep her tamed. So, what’s a girl gotta do to have free will?
27) Wait! Do you watch/play cricket? Only a few girls understand the game of cricket.
We were all brought up in India, Rahul. Obviously, I know what a no-ball is, so you don’t have to ask me about the rules. The same goes for football. Why is it too hard for men to comprehend that women can love sports?
28) Why do you need a job? Your dad has money, and your husband will have money once you get married.
I need a job because I do not want to be financially dependent on anyone. I would rather pay my own bills than have someone lord over me because they deign to feed me.
29) You are being dramatic.
Women expressing emotions has always been written off as too dramatic or too emotional. Nuhh huhhh. I am just reacting to your bad behavior. Nothing dramatic here, stop gaslighting!
30) Don’t you have a boyfriend? Why? Do you hate men?
Stop assuming that single women hate men. Maybe they are not ready for it, maybe they do not have the time for it, maybe they do not want to date a manchild! Uggh!
31) You have changed completely after marriage. I miss those good old memories!
Just as a single woman hates being asked about her love life, a married woman also doesn’t like to hear about how she has changed after marriage or pregnancy. It’s a new phase of her life, there will be change! Deal with it!
32) Are you sure about doing this task alone?
If a woman says she can handle it, she can handle it. You do not need to underestimate her capability. She has been dealing with misogynists her entire life. She can do a task alone. Duh!
33) Babe, I’m just kidding!
Remember all the times when women were asked to lighten up and let the joke slide? No, Sir, your sexist joke isn’t funny. I am not laughing.
34) hy are you so cranky? Are you on periods?
A woman can be cranky for many reasons – stupidity, patriarchy, threats, and so much more. You don’t have to assume that she is mad just because she is menstruating.
35) You look like a hot chick!
Why you gotta be a creep and talk to a girl like that? Be a gentleman, talk to her politely and respectfully, even if she is a hot chick.
36) Forget about making the first move. It’s a man thing!
Why? Just because you can’t pluck up the courage and ask a girl out doesn’t mean a woman can’t make the first move. Equality, my friend!
37) Change your shift timings if you are working late at night.
While some women may prefer working during the day some may not have the option to pick a day shift. Healthcare workers often work late at night and it can’t be helped. So do not go around giving your tippani(two cents) when none is needed.
38) Household chores and taking care of children are just women’s things!
“Aurat ka kaam”, is a phrase that has been used for ages to keep women in the kitchen and at home. But domestic chores aren’t just women’s responsibility and men doing household chores are not “raja beta”, they are just decent human beings.
39) You are so lucky your husband helps you out.
I am sorry, helps me out? This house and family are both of our responsibility. He is doing his job when he is looking after “our kids.” Women are grateful when their husbands act as partners and not another giant baby they have to take care of.
40) You are a girl from a well-known family. Don’t act like this!
In the words of Manju Maai, “Bhale ghar ki bahu beti” is a fraud! This societal construct has stopped women from following their passions for centuries. So before you say this to a woman, have a look in the mirror and check whether you are qualified to make that judgment or statement.
41) You are too sentimental!
Is she too sentimental or are you too cold, you Vulcan? Do not shame a woman for her feelings, that’s pathetic, gnome-like behavior.
42) Did you go out wearing that?
Yes, I did, and I will again. It’s high time we stop moral-policing women. It’s their bodies and they can wear what they feel comfortable with. Get your head straight and pants up! Eww.
43) Let me take care of you.
You can hear this from guys who are pretending to be “nice.” Normally, women have no problem when you say this genuinely. But if you are saying it with veiled condescension, then shame on you. I can very well take care of myself, thank you!
44) I’ll drive, you relax.
Again, the stupid prejudice that women need to calm down and can’t drive. We are sick of it!
45) Are you sure you don’t want kids? You’re such a fun aunt.
Well, her body, her choice. This slogan may be overused but it’s true. If a woman does not want to have babies, it is her choice. Stop trying to convince her to have kids. Women need to have autonomy over their bodies and decide whether or not they want to put their bodies through all that. Moreover, having a kid is also an emotional investment, not every woman wants to make that. Stop trying to turn women into mothers.
46) Why do you always wear flats? Don’t you want to look more “professional”?
I will wear whatever I want. Having flats on does not make a woman less capable or unprofessional! My footwear does not hamper my ability to do my job.
47) How do you know so much? Do you actually follow the news?
Yes, I would like to stay informed about everything that’s going on. I don’t want to be an ignorant caveman! What do you think women do? Just watch rom-coms and eat candy?
48) Why do you always look mad? You should smile more.
Tell a woman to smile more and she will give you a hundred reasons to cry. Stop telling women to look pretty and approachable. Do you know why women do not want to smile coyly anymore? Because most men think it is an invitation to approach them. So yeah, we would rather have an RBF than a smile!
49) Do not lift heavy. You will look like a man.
Ohh yeah, thank you for your opinion. Women who lift would kill to see the kind of progress as a man. So, if you tell her she will look like a man, she will be more than happy with that news. On another note, lifting heavy does not make women manly— it makes them strong af!
50) You are overthinking. That’s not what happened.
Women’s experiences are often chalked off as invalid because we are too emotional. If a woman is telling you she feels a certain way, you don’t say – “You are overthinking.”. Ask them what made them feel that way, and get emotionally intelligent!
51) You should be more soft. Men don’t like when women talk back.
Sadly, women being bold and loud is considered masculine. Do not tell a woman to be more soft and ladylike. It’s plain rude! And you might get your feelings hurt a little as well. *evil smile*
Wrapping it up
Alright, you’ve officially made it to the end of our little rant session! So, what’s the takeaway from this little list: Women are complex and capable, and they are tired of the same old tired tropes.
It’s time to ditch the outdated scripts and start listening to what women have to say. Hear the passion in their voices, see the fire in their eyes, and acknowledge what they bring to the table.
So, let’s raise a glass (of whatever fabulous beverage you prefer) to a future where women are heard, respected, and celebrated for exactly who they are. And to anyone still stuck on repeat with these tired phrases? Well, you know where the door is. *mic drop*
